Be Your Own Prince Charming

When I was 22 years old, someone asked me why I wanted to go to law school. I gave a very lengthy explanation much of which I remember verbatim; however, the final few sentences stuck out to me. At the time I didn’t understand how important the statements were or how true they would become. I said them with all the confidence and naivety of a 22 year old with zero life experience but lofty goals and an idealized notion of what the real world would be: “I’m also going to law school so I can have a career and be independent. I can’t depend on finding some Prince Charming who is going to save and take care of me. I have to be my own Prince Charming.”’

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what I want this blog to become and I haven’t come to a conclusion. I do, however, know what I don’t want to do anymore so I figured that was a good place to start. I’m done writing about dating. Over the past year, my feelings about dating, relationships and the like have changed dramatically. I don’t know what is going to happen to me in that area of my life and I don’t care. And I don’t want to write about it anymore.

Essentially all I want is this: a partner who I think is awesome and who thinks I am awesome and we can do awesome shit together. And that’s all. (OK — that’s not “all” – I have a height, educational and beard requirement but that is SO not the point of this post).  I don’t know if I’ll get married. I don’t know if I want to. I don’t know if I want children anymore. But I don’t want this to be a space for me mentally working through that decision making process.

So what am I supposed to write about now? I’m single but don’t want to talk about dating or romance. I don’t have children so I can’t write about that. I could write about other people’s children but…GIVE ME A BREAK. There are several reasons I’d never do that: (1) it’s creepy; (2) I’m not maternal at all; (3) I know nothing about children and (4) did I mention that it’s creepy!?!  I don’t do any DIY stuff so this can’t become a DIY blog where I teach you how to make fun centerpieces with a treasure trove of knick knacks purchased from Michael’s. First, I don’t know where the nearest Michael’s is located. Second, I’m not crafty. Third, I don’t want to get glitter all over my apartment.  I don’t cook much any more so this can’t become a cooking blog. Truth be told, I used to cook a lot but cooking for one is depressing and it’s much quicker to eat a bowl of fruit, have a glass of wine and call it a day. That being said, this clearly will not become a nutrition blog. The market for foodie blogs has been cornered. My voice isn’t needed in that arena. I’m not fashionable so this can’t become a fashion blog. Unless you want to see 30 different variations on the “black shift dress with flats and a sensible sweater because the office is cold” look.

Where does that leave me? What should I write about? This question brings me to my main thesis. I went to law school with the intention of becoming my own “Prince Charming”  but what does that mean?  To me, becoming my own “Prince Charming” means:

  • building a life I enjoy
  • investing in myself personally, socially and professionally
  • standing up for myself
  • not putting down other women or being jealous of other women
  • living without fear
  • working hard on overcoming self-doubt, self-esteem issues and lack of self-confidence
  • carefully seeking an equal partner not just someone to pass the time
  • knowing when to fight battles and when to walk away

All that being said, I think I’m achieving the lofty goal I flippantly set out for myself more than a decade ago. There have been multiple set backs and roadblocks but I’ve remained true to my word many years later. And I want a blog that accurately reflects who I am now and not the fact that Tinder is a crappy app. (That’s a fact. Look it up.)

So what do I do now? I’ll write what I love and what I know. I work out a lot, spend copious amounts of time reading about women’s issues, love music and pop culture and think I’m hilarious. So, for now, I’ll stick with that.  On that note:

P.S. As an aside, I was talking to my friend about transitioning this space into a blog devoted to feminism and women’s issues. Then I quickly said, “I’m sure no one would want to date me if I did that.”  Then I thought about it, if a guy read a bunch of my feminist “rantings” and thought, “I want to spend time getting to know her” that is PRECISELY the type of guy I want to spend time around.

P.P.S  I made you a playlist; there’s some emo meaning behind it but you don’t care about all that crap just pump the jams. (Do people still say that?)

One thought on “Be Your Own Prince Charming

  1. Mollie says:

    Excited to read on through your blog transition. You are hilarious! But also, I’d read about the copious number of black shift dresses and flats with sweaters… Because that’s my uniform too 🙂

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